As many first time parents know, the birth of that precious bundle is overwhelming and we all want to do it right to ensure our little cherub grows up to be a happy, child, teenager, adult.
As we thumb through the ‘how to’ books of what to do and what not to do, we often lose sight of what is one of the most important things we can give our children to ensure they grow up to be resilient adults and that is; to provide a secure predictable base, one they can depend on, one where the boundaries have continuity (not changing like leaves blowing in the wind) there is a sense of safety and stability, an environment where there is emotional and physical support, respect, laughter, happiness and genuine joy in being with.
None of these vital elements cost money, which is a huge bonus. On doing a spot of research in 2015 the in dollar terms was $233,610 to raise a child. I can just about feel parents ready to pull out their hair (that’s if there is any to pull out and trust me after have two biologicals, 3 steps and 15 grandkids, not to mention being a primary school teacher for over 20 years, the falling locks come and go especially if it is head lice time and all 5 heads have lice doing somersaults as you pull the dreaded nit comb through the screaming child’s hair with some big enough to be worthy of a saddle) but, the kid has to have shoes, be fed, go to school etc., etc., etc.
Lesley McConnell - author of BLACK TEARS